Twin Resource 2.2 MIDDLE YEARS: School & Education Concerns
MIDDLE SCHOOL YEARS
The middle years in school have their own challenges, especially for same-age siblings. Most obvious is the transition from childhood to adolescence. The rapid development during this time is a challenge to every child, but may highlight additional needs for siblings.
The benefit of having a sibling to share some of these challenges can be comforting at times. At other times, it can be as if they are competing against each other. The issue is often rooted in the need for each child to find their own “place.” This means they are learning and developing their own talents, interests and abilities, both as a unit, and as individuals. The following situations help teachers and parents consider the unique concerns of twins and multiples at this time of transition:
- Comparisons (Will teachers compare us, even if we are in different classes and school activities? Will I be known for my own talents, motivations, interests, and achievements?)
- Competitions (What if we don’t want to compete? What if we compete too much? What if others expect us to compete too much?)
- First “best friend” experiences…will I have my own friends?
- Will my friends like me for who I am, apart from my sibling?
- Do I have to do everything my sibling twin does?
- Will I get to take up my own hobbies / interests in school…like band (learning an instrument), joining a club, participating in sports, etc…Apart from my twin, if I want to?
- Will I be able to choose classes I want to take apart from my sibling?
We have included some checklists that may also help evaluate the issues of identity, competition, and communication. As with any tool or checklist, these are to be used in conjunction with other tools, evidence, and observations to make the most professional and positive decisions.